239: First year for your newborn baby: The 7 ideas that really matter
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thriveShow Notes
What truly matters in a baby’s first year? This episode explores the top seven things parents should focus on, helping you set priorities with confidence.
Questions this episode will answer
How much influence do parents really have on their child’s development? What parenting practices actually make a long-term difference? Should you be worried about hitting developmental milestones on time? How can you support your baby’s emotional well-being from day one? What are the best ways to foster a strong parent-child bond?
What you’ll learn in this episode
Parenting advice changes constantly, often reflecting shifts in culture and scientific understanding. In this episode, we take a research-backed approach to uncover what truly matters in your baby’s first year—and what doesn’t. The Myth of the Perfect Parent:Learn why the definition of “good parenting” has evolved and how cultural expectations influence parenting choices. Nature vs. Nurture:Discover the surprising role genetics and socioeconomic factors play in shaping a child’s future. The Truth About Developmental Milestones:Understand why comparing your child to others can be misleading—and what really matters for long-term success. Helping Your Baby Feel Secure:Explore the key elements of emotional safety and how they support healthy development. Building a Strong Parent-Child Connection:Learn practical strategies to foster trust, communication, and bonding with your baby. Making Parenting Easier:Get clarity on what’s actually worth stressing about—spoiler: fancy baby gear isn’t on the list.
Join us as we use our values to understand how to get parenting right from the start for your baby and family.
If you’re ready to dive even deeper into these ideas and get hands-on guidance in your parenting journey, our Right From The Start course that I run with Hannah & Kelty of Upbringing is here to help.
It’s designed to give you the confidence and tools to support your baby’s emotional well-being, strengthen your bond, and parent with intention—right from the start.
You'll get access to nine modules of content on topics like supporting baby's sleep, feeding with confidence, and supporting a strong sibling relationship. You'll also learn how to meet your own needs - because you're a whole person with needs, not just your baby's parent.
Other episodes mentioned
081: How can I decide which daycare/preschool is right for my child? 079: What is RIE? 084: The Science of RIE Q&A#5: What really matters in parenting? Part 1
Jump to highlights
01:25 Introducing today’s episode
03:35 Socioeconomic status can make a large contribution to children’s outcome
04:57 Traumatic experiences mostly happen among poor families
09:27 Non-exhaustive list of things that don’t matter enough to be worth worrying about for parents who are expecting a baby or have one under the age of one
16:05 Verbalization of comparing each baby's milestone can create the conditions that we know can arouse shame in a lot of people surrounding the baby
21:23 Childcare is the sixth most important thing that can make an impact on a baby’s life in their first year of existence
26:42 Dividing the workload as a parent is one of the essential things that is crucial for the babies
33:39 How do our childhood experiences affect how we discipline our children?
39:53 Approaches in planning the baby’s first year of existence is the third most important idea that matters
43:31 Learning how to interpret someone’s behavior as an expression of their need can be crucial for babies
46:42 Identifying parent needs is the most important factor that matters for the baby's development
52:01 Wrapping up the discussion
References
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (n.d.). Suicide statistics. Author. Retrieved from: https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/
DeSilver, D. (2013, December 19). Global inequality: How the U.S. compares. Pew Research Center. Retrieved from: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2013/12/19/global
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