Dale Carnegie vs Motivational Interviewing: The Difference Between Influence and True Change
MI for Change: Motivational Interviewing in ABA & Mental HealthShow Notes
Share Your Thoughts With Us In this episode of MI For Change, Dr. Monica Gilbert explores a powerful and often misunderstood comparison: Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” vs. Motivational Interviewing (MI). While both approaches emphasize communication, connection, and influence, they differ in one critical way—the intention behind the conversation. You’ll learn: Why the concept of “influence” can feel manipulative in clinical and leadership settings T...
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