118. The Good Girl Contract - part six (finale): What your children actually need from you
The Post-Separation Abuse PodcastShow Notes
This is the final episode in the six-part Good Girl Contract series: Your children are not doomed by what they have experienced (and neither are you). But what happens next matters. In this episode, Danielle speaks directly to protective mothers about the work their children actually need from them: protecting while they can, modelling healthy boundaries, accepting their children’s boundaries in return, and becoming a parent their children do not have to emotionally manage. This means confron...
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