Perfectionism & Living in Alignment With Your Authentic Self with Nikki Heyder, Founder of State of Soul
Beyond Beauty Project: The PodcastShow Notes
Nikki Heyder is a qualified Counseling Practitioner, Clinical Nutritionist, Yoga Instructor and Mentor/Supervisor for fellow therapists and coaches, as well as the founder of State of Soul. Nikki works specifically with women to guide them to heal from acute or complex trauma, low self-worth, anxiety, addictive tendencies, attachment issues, and disordered eating. She integrates a multidimensional approach in all aspects of her work and believes that “health” is not merely about the internal workings of the body - but rather a fusion of the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual self. With over 11 years of experience within the wellness industry, Nikki is deeply passionate about reconnecting her clients back to their authentic, present selves and to help them better understand who they are - to operate with less stress, less pain, and less conflict in the world around them. As a mentor/supervisor, she teaches heart centered therapists and coaches the power of compassion, attunement, emotional safety, and how to utilize a mixed modality approach to healing and self acceptance. In this episode, Nikki describes her personal journey that led her to help others through compassion focused therapy with integrated somatic work, the three different types of perfectionism, the importance of curating your experience of life consciously on social media, how to tend to the belief that we are not good enough, and discovering and living in alignment with your authentic self. Bridgett and Nikki also discuss why and how perfectionism could be connected to eating disorders and addiction, the harms of self-comparison on social media, how to validate ourselves and step away from external validation, and simple ways to start healing from perfectionism and begin self-compassionate work. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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