Show Notes
When people see the father you've become, do they know who helped you become him? This is a message to my wife, Teri. A thank you for the sacrifices I didn't always see, the years she carried more than I understood and the part she played in helping me become the husband and father my family needed. What You'll Hear In this episode:
What I wish I'd understood when my wife first became a mum Why becoming parents changes your relationship as well as your life Why partnership isn't always fifty fifty Five things 25 years together have taught me about love How forgiveness gives our children something more valuable than perfection Why emotional safety matters more than the home we can provide What our sons learn by watching how we love each other
Why This Matters Fatherhood doesn't happen in isolation. Sometimes the father everyone sees was shaped by someone standing beside him when nobody was looking. Our children are watching that relationship too. They're learning how to love. How to disagree. How to apologise. How to forgive. How to stay. And how to keep becoming. Answer Me This Who helped you become the person you're most proud of? And if the answer is your partner: When did you last tell her? Continue The Series EP62: Max… If You Ever Forget Who You Are, Come Back To This EP63: Henry… When You Stop Believing In Yourself, Listen To This Three messages. To the people who matter most. And an invitation to create your own.
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