Is sleep training "always wrong"? Kaitlin Klimmer on grey areas and maternal mental health
Sleep like a baby?Show Notes
A controversial question this week! There will be people who say that cry-it-out is always wrong/cruel/avoidable. And others that believe it is the best thing ever. But what about the space in between these two polarised stances? Kaitlin Klimmer and I are both sleep specialists who offer alternatives to sleep training, but where do we stand on the moral debate around infant sleep and controlled crying? We go deep into temperament, cultural expectations/norms, maternal mental health and setting boundaries whilst protecting attunement.Austria-based, Canadian sleep specialist and mother of two, Kaitlin Klimmer, has a degree in developmental psychology and more than a decade of experience working with children under five. She's completed several holistic infant sleep and breastfeeding qualifications, and is a qualified Circle of Security Parenting Facilitator. For more information see www.kaitlinklimmer.com or follow her on Instagram @KaitlinKlimmer.
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