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What do you do when you feel uninspired, creatively stuck, or disconnected from the person you want to be? Let’s chit chat about how to find inspiration again, reconnect with your creativity, and feel more motivated in your everyday life. If you’ve been feeling stuck in a rut or wondering where your spark went, this might give you a boost of inspiration. Tune into our self-love podcast to learn… Why feeling uninspired might have less to do with a lack of creativity and more to do with how you're approaching day-to-day life The surprising connection between dopamine, social media addiction, and your ability to feel inspired Why boredom might be the gateway to your creativity How to find inspiration in unexpected places, even when you feel stuck, unmotivated, or like you don't have the time, energy, or resources to pursue your creative interests

If you enjoy thoughtful recommendations that make you think, feel, and romanticize autumn, this one’s for you! In this fall favorites episode, I’m sharing what I’ve been reading, watching, and reaching for lately, from books that have changed how I think about friendship to the TV shows I’m obsessed with. Plus, a few self-care staples that are making fall feel warm and cozy. I also go off on tangents about female friendships, the beauty of connecting with strangers, fictional female characters, and why spending time together in person matters more than ever. I’m also sharing my feminist thoughts on East of Eden, my love for Ted Lasso, yummy cycle-syncing teas, my favorite lip liner, and the tea towels that are bringing a little extra charm to my kitchen. Mentioned In This Episode... How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos on Mary’s Cup of Tea Bestie Break-Ups and Why Female Friendships Feel So Fragile with Danielle Bayard Jackson on Mary’s Cup of Tea Fighting For Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships by Danielle Bayard Jackson Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know by Malcolm Gladwell Encounterism: The Neglected Joys of Being In Person by Andy Field East of Eden by John Steinbeck East of Eden limited series on Netflix Ted Lasso on Apple TV+ Cycle syncing teas by Tea Lady Brooklyn Espresso-colored lip liner by NYX Cosmetics The earplugs I sleep with every night Cotton & jute blend tea towels from Target The thermos I use every day Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books: The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself. Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast And if you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

Why is it so hard to receive love, even when we desperately want it? In this episode, psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Marisa G. Franco and I unpack the hidden side of self-worth: how our early relationships shape the way we see ourselves, why love can sometimes feel threatening, and why shame may be a bigger problem than insecurity itself. You will learn… Why we sometimes pull away from people who love us How your attachment style can shape your self-worth and the way you experience relationships Why being “secure” shouldn’t mean becoming perfectly healed, unbothered, or free of insecurity How you can work with memories to soften the way painful experiences affect your self-worth The science behind how therapy modalities like EMDR, EFT, IFS, and inner child work can heal childhood trauma Why emotional honesty and self-compassion may be more powerful than trying to suppress the parts of ourselves we don’t like

We all know what it feels like to be hard on ourselves, question whether we're good enough, or let someone else's opinion become our own inner voice. All of this comes down to self-trust. In this deeply personal conversation, three-time Grammy Award-winning violinist Hilary Hahn (!!!) and I talk about self-worth, perfectionism, creativity, long-term dedication to your craft, and the lifelong process of learning to trust yourself. Hilary shares what decades of performing have taught her about self-trust, quieting her inner critic, finding her own style, and staying connected to the parts of herself that exist beyond achievement. You will learn… How perfectionism can disconnect you from your creativity, and what Hilary has learned about letting go of the need to get everything exactly “right” Why self-worth cannot depend on awards, praise, or other people's opinions, and how to recognize the voices you've internalized What performing has taught Hilary about self-trust, presence, and getting out of your own head Why your imperfections may actually be part of what makes your work and your presence more authentic and human How to cultivate creativity by giving yourself time to think, experiment, process, and develop your own ideas What it means to stay committed to your craft Remember: Your self-worth does not have to be earned through achievement or perfection. Self-trust grows when you learn to listen to your own voice, recognize what you value about yourself, and give yourself permission to be fully human. Hilary Hahn is a three-time GRAMMY Award-winning violinist known for her expressive musicality, technical expertise, and curiosity both within and beyond the classical music world. She has commissioned and championed works by more than 40 living composers, while her recordings have earned some of the highest honors in the music world. She also created #100daysofpractice, a social media initiative that has transformed practicing into a community celebration of creativity and artistic development, with more than one million posts shared by performers and students. She currently serves on the string faculty at Juilliard and continues to perform, record, commission new works, and connect with audiences around the world. If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @violincase.

There’s a lot more to self-love than feeling good about yourself. Though self-compassion is clearly associated with better mental health, stronger relationships, healthier behaviors, and greater resilience, the interesting part of the research is what happens underneath all of that: how changing the way you relate to yourself can actually change the way you behave, especially when you fail, struggle, or suffer. So let’s dive into the science of self-love and self-compassion to uncover some surprising ways they can change your motivation, emotional regulation, and relationship with failure. Tune into our self-love podcast to learn… Why self-compassion may be more stable than self-esteem, and why constantly evaluating yourself can get in the way of feeling good about yourself Whether positive affirmations can be too positive, and why believing you’re exceptional might make failure feel even scarier Why being kinder to yourself can actually make you more motivated to improve after you mess up How your inner voice can work more like a supportive coach than a drill sergeant Why self-compassion may help us regulate uncomfortable emotions and stop putting off things we know are good for us Why something can feel comforting when you say it to yourself but completely insensitive when someone else says it to you, especially during grief We’ll also get into a surprising question: do you have to think highly of yourself in order to love yourself? The science suggests there may be another way to feel secure in yourself, one that doesn’t require being the prettiest, smartest, most successful, or most impressive person in the room. Remember: self-love isn’t about convincing yourself that everything is great. Self-love is about building a relationship with yourself that allows you to be imperfect, learn from your mistakes, and keep going LONG ENOUGH TO GET BETTER. Mentioned In This Episode... Kristin Neff’s review of the research on self-compassion Neff & Vonk (2009), self-compassion and self-esteem Breines & Chen (2012), self-compassion and motivation after failure Research on inflated praise and self-esteem Research on self-compassion and bedtime procrastination Research on cultural differences in self-compassion Research on grief support and messages after a death Research on helpful and unhelpful grief support Heart rate variability and the HeartMath technique Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books: The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself. Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast And if you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!