A Journey Through IFS with Tammy Sollenberger

Ready to publishYour anxiety, perfectionism, procrastination, and even self-sabotage may not be the real problem. Trauma specialist John Clarke reveals how Internal Family Systems helps you stop fighting yourself and start healing the parts that are running your life.If you have ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” this conversation will hit home. James and John unpack the IFS model in a way that is simple to understand but surprisingly powerful in practice, showing how wounded parts, protectors, and the core Self all interact—and why so much of what we call personality is actually protection.You'll discover: Why IFS says we are all made up of parts, and why that idea can be deeply freeing The difference between exiles, managers, and firefighters, and how each one tries to protect you How perfectionism, people-pleasing, drinking, binge eating, procrastination, and defensiveness can all function as protective strategies What “blending” and “unblending” mean, and how to tell when a part has taken over How self-leadership works through the 8 C’s: compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness Why healing often starts by approaching your inner world with the same care you would give a scared child

Why are men often afraid to talk about their mental health? In this special episode, James L is joined by guests Colm, Jack, and Michael for an honest conversation about men’s mental health, the challenges they face, and the importance of opening up.

Are you in a relationship that leaves you feeling confused, anxious, or unsure of your self-worth? 🤔 James L sits down with transformational coach Ben Taylor from (Orlando, FL) to unpack toxic relationships, narcissism, and the path to healing. 🔹 What We Cover: - The subtle signs of toxic relationships and narcissism [03:04] - How confusion and self-doubt gradually take hold [04:16] - Why it’s so hard to leave – breaking down trauma bonds and cognitive dissonance [17:29] - Real-life tactics for co-parenting—or parallel parenting—when a narcissist is involved [43:11 - The importance of grounding yourself in facts and practical self-help tools for survivors [53:03]

Dawn Hunter, an entrepreneur, lawyer, and public health consultant, connecting from Florida to share her deeply personal story of resilience and growth. Dawn opens up about growing up in a military family impacted by trauma, domestic violence, parentification, and the challenges of navigating childhood in an environment filled with secrecy and unrest. Together, James and Dawn discuss breaking generational cycles, the nuanced journey of healing, and the role of therapy and creative outlets in building a happier, more authentic life. Dawn also touches on her efforts to reframe our relationship with work through her own podcast, “Work Is Third,” and reflects on her journey to self-acceptance, pride, and finding joy beyond accomplishment. This episode is a powerful reminder that, no matter the background, it’s possible to rewrite your own story—embracing both the tears and the joy that come with it. 7 key themes discussed in the episode: Childhood domestic violence and trauma

Welcome back to "Don't Be Afraid to Talk." In this episode, host James L sits down with Gerry Ryan, the driving force behind the Tolka River Project, a community-based addiction rehabilitation center in Dublin. Gerry shares his journey from working at the renowned Coolmine Therapeutic Community to reopening Tolka River Project nearly two decades ago. Together, they dive into what makes the center unique—from tailoring programs to meet individual needs, to fostering client involvement and prioritizing innovation over one-size-fits-all solutions. You'll hear open and honest conversations about the changing landscape of addiction, the challenges of recovery, and how the project empowers clients to redefine their futures—not just by overcoming addiction, but by building life skills, pursuing education, and creating a supportive community. Whether you’re curious about the inner workings of a recovery center, or looking for hopeful stories of personal transformation, this episode is packed with insights, compassion, and practical wisdom.