How Trying to Help Your Dogs Get Along Could Make Their Conflict Worse
The Dog Who Asked for More: Understanding Life With Your Dog Beyond Dog Training and BehaviorShow Notes
You know the plan isn't working. Everyone is more stressed, you're constantly managing the fallout, and yet changing course somehow feels harder than trying one more time. When consistency gets treated like the answer to every dog training problem, walking away from a plan can feel like admitting you didn't try hard enough. But sometimes the thing keeping you and your dog stuck isn't a lack of effort. It's the pressure to make the original plan succeed, even when it's making life harder. You'll hear: Why changing a dog training or management plan that isn't working doesn't mean you've given up on your dog How trying different setups with Fitz and Ernie eventually led to a solution that created less stress for everyone Why new information can be a reason to change course instead of proof that you made the wrong decision
Press play if you've ever kept trying to make a plan work because stopping felt too much like failing your dog.
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