The Mind Over Finger Podcast

251 Your Heart Is Racing. Now What? The "Yes, And" trick that turns nerves into focus

The Mind Over Finger Podcast

Show Notes

When your heart is racing and your brain starts whispering "don't mess this up," it's easy to think the goal is to shut the thoughts down. But that fight is often the thing that turns normal pre performance activation into full anxiety. In this short episode, I borrow the first rule of improv, "Yes, and," and show you how to use it as a musician. Not to become fearless, but to stay in the music even when doubt is in the room. In this episode, you'll hear: · The difference between normal activation and anxiety, and how the "second layer" of thoughts creates the spiral · Why denial and forcing yourself to "stop thinking" usually backfire right before performance · How to use "Yes, and" as validation, so your nervous system feels supported instead of bullied · Real scripts for the moments musicians actually struggle with, feeling behind in practice, tight in the warmup room, or rattled by a mistake on stage · A one minute breath reset you can do anywhere, 4 count inhale, 6 count exhale, paired with "Yes" and "And" · A simple challenge for today, catch one scary thought, validate it, and keep going

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THANK YOU: Most sincere thank you to composer Jim Stephenson who graciously provided the show's musical theme: Concerto #1 for Trumpet and Chamber Orchestra – Movement 2: Allegro con Brio, performed by Jeffrey Work, trumpet, and the Lake Forest Symphony, conducted by Jim Stephenson.

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