Summary
Lewis Howes, entrepreneur and host of the podcast "The School of Greatness," shares his personal journey of confronting societal expectations of masculinity in a conversation with Annie Yorg, Editorial Director for Robbins Research International. Howes reflects on how traditional masculine ideals, shaped by experiences in sports and media, led him to a life filled with anger and unfulfillment. At 30, he began a transformative journey to shed these "masks" of masculinity, seeking guidance from psychologists and mentors, including Tony Robbins.
In his new book, "The Mask of Masculinity," Howes explores the detrimental effects of these masks, which include the stoic, the know-it-all, and the materialist. He emphasizes that many men struggle with vulnerability and emotional expression, often feeling isolated in their pain. Howes recounts a pivotal moment when he revealed a long-held secret of childhood trauma during a workshop, which led to profound connections with other men and a deeper understanding of his own emotional struggles.
The discussion highlights the importance of emotional intelligence and the need for men to embrace vulnerability to foster stronger relationships and personal fulfillment. Howes advocates for a new definition of masculinity centered on service, inner peace, and freedom, arguing that true strength lies in the ability to connect authentically with oneself and others. The episode underscores the necessity of breaking down harmful stereotypes to create a healthier dialogue around masculinity.
Show Notes
“Be a man.” “Man up.” “Start acting like a man.” These are things we hear all the time – in the locker room, in the media, in our own homes. We’ve been conditioned to adopt certain beliefs about what “masculinity” is, and we routinely force those ideals and expectations upon others, and upon ourselves. But what has this cost us?Uploaded 03-10-19In this episode, Tony’s editorial director, Ana Yoerg, sits down with entrepreneur, performance coach and host of a top-ranked podcast, Lewis Howes.By all accounts, Lewis had always fit the cultural ideal of what a masculine man should be. He was a two-sport All-American who went on to play football professionally. He built his podcast, “The School of Greatness” into a global phenomenon. And he was becoming financially and professionally successful beyond his wildest dreams. But he soon realized that his whole identity was built on misguided beliefs about what “masculinity” was: dangerous, false ideas learned from teammates and coaches in locker rooms and stereotypes in the media. And like so many men, Lewis grew up to be angry, frustrated and always chasing something that was never enough.So at 30 years old, Lewis began a personal journey to shed the many masks that he and so many other men wear, and to discover who he is at his core. He sought advice from some of the world’s best psychologists, doctors and household names like Tony Robbins himself. And he documented everything that he learned in his latest book – The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives.In this episode, you will hear Lewis discuss the ultimate emptiness of the Material Mask and the man who chases wealth above all things. You will hear him talk about the cowering vulnerability that hides behind the Stoic Masks of men who never show real emotion; and the destructiveness of the Invincible and Aggressive Masks worn by men who take insane risks or can never back down from a fight. And you will learn about Lewis’s own struggles with the masks he has worn, and how he has learned how to break through the walls that held them back so he could truly find himself, and ultimately, how he could find true happiness.Discover Date With Destiny – Tony Robbins’ most intimate event, where tens of thousands of people have committed to designing their most beautiful lives. Over six immersive days, you’ll explore the depths of what drives every behavior, thought, decision and emotion you experience – and you’ll learn how to take control of your life to feel more joy, freedom and love than ever before.Visit Tony Robbins' websites:https://www.tonyrobbins.com/http://www.unshakeable.com/Follow Tony Robbins @:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyRobbinsTwitter: https://twitter.com/tonyrobbinsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ajrobbinsInstagram: https://instagram.com/tonyrobbins/Tony Robbins is a #1 New York Times best-selling author, entrepreneur, and philanthropist. For more than 37 years, millions of people have enjoyed the warmth, humor and dynamic presentation of Mr. Robbins' corporate and personal development events. As the nation's #1 life and business strategist, he¹s called upon to consult and coach some of the world¹s finest athletes, entertainers, Fortune 500 CEOs, and even presidents of nations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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