What Do You Really Want? Getting Out of Autopilot and the Prescribed Life — Alyson and Tripp Lanier
The New ManShow Notes
Do you know what you really want in life or are you just reacting to whatever comes your way?
Do you do things because they actually strengthen you or because some guy on a podcast said you should do them?
And how can we get out of autopilot to begin the process of forging our own path?
Today we dig into a question that scares a lot of people: What do you want? So many of us are firefighting, reacting, or quietly living a “prescribed life” and then wondering why we feel chronically trapped, drained, isolated, or out of alignment. Is there another way? Can we find and follow a different compass heading without blowing up everything we care about? Let’s find out.
https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/01/what-do-you-really-want
COACHING
→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com
BOOK
→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? “This Book Will Make You Dangerous” is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book
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