Is Sex Overrated? A Candid Talk on Love, Connection & the #1 Thing Your Relationship Is Probably Missing with Courtenay Dubois
The Upgrade EditShow Notes
What really holds a relationship together — is it sex, love, emotional safety... or something deeper?
In this raw and eye-opening episode, I’m joined by relationship expert and sensual strategist Courtenay Dubois to explore why so many modern relationships feel unfulfilling, even when the chemistry is strong. We unpack the often-misunderstood link between sensuality and emotional safety, and Courtenay shares the one essential ingredient most people are overlooking in their pursuit of lasting love.
I also open up about my own journey of 2.5 years of celibacy — how it’s reshaped the way I view intimacy, the importance of feeling safe in connection, and why stepping away from sex created space for deeper emotional healing.
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge what you think you need in love — and offer a powerful shift in how you relate to both yourself and others.
In This Episode, We Cover:
Why sex isn't the glue we think it is — and what actually creates intimacy
The #1 thing your relationship might be missing
How emotional safety unlocks true connection
What celibacy can reveal about your unmet needs
Sensuality vs. sexuality — and how to build safety in the body first
Steps for creating deeper, more conscious relationships
Reflection Questions:
Do I feel safe being my full self in my relationships?
Am I seeking connection — or avoiding emotional depth?
If sex disappeared from my relationship, what would remain?
Guest Spotlight:
Courtenay Dubois is a relationship expert and sensual strategist who helps people deepen intimacy, reclaim their sensual selves, and build conscious, emotionally rich relationships.
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Follow Courtenay on Instagram: @courtenay_dubois
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