The Victoria Clark Show for Music Teachers

I Used to Refund Every Missed Lesson. Here's Why I Stopped.

The Victoria Clark Show for Music Teachers

Show Notes

You know you shouldn't refund it. You've told yourself that. And then the text comes in, and you feel the familiar pull, the guilt, the worry about how they'll react, and somehow you end up saying yes again. This episode isn't about what your cancellation policy should say. It's about why so many of us can't bring ourselves to enforce it, even when we know we should. For years I handled missed lessons on a case-by-case basis, making decisions based on how well I got on with the family that we...

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