Show Notes
Erin has been going on retreats for years. Silent retreats, breathwork, mindfulness. It’s not a phase, it’s part of how she functions. Terry got into mindfulness, did the work, and then came back the other direction. Genuinely. This week they get into what going inward actually does, and whether it survives contact with real life. What Erin gets from retreats that she can’t get anywhere else. What Terry found when he was in it, and what made him walk back out. The gap between the person who goes away for stillness and the person who comes home to a full house and a packed week. And whether two people in the same marriage can be at completely different places on this without it becoming a problem. Plus: They read back over listener comments from Episode 3, money and power dynamics.
Tell us in the comments: have you ever tried a retreat or mindfulness practice? Did it stick, and what brings you back to yourself when nothing else is working? New episodes every Thursday. Subscribe to get them when they’re hot! #KeepingItRealWithErinAndTerry #Mindfulness #SpiritualRetreat #RealTalk #MarriedLife
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Erin’s off this week, so Terry brought in his friend and fellow musician Jake Suleman, and it turned into one of the most honest conversations of the series. Both of them are autism dads. Terry to Harry, Jake to his 8-year-old daughter Esme. Two totally different kids of the same age. Despite the differences, Terry and Jake share the same lifestyle and same highs, lows, and hard days. Terry shares the moment from a few days before recording that stopped him in his tracks. Harry saying his first word with real purpose. Jake talks about how Esme sees the world: no concept of violence, unable to spot a bully because she assumes everyone talking to her is a friend. They get into how differently Esme hears the world; super-sensitive to sound, picking up songs she can’t stand even when they’re barely audible. And they land on the thing neither of them takes for granted: that their careers in music simply wouldn’t exist without help from their families and their wives holding everything together at home. Two dads, two guitars, and the kind of conversation that doesn’t happen often enough. Tell us in the comments: if you’re raising an autistic child, what’s the moment that hit you harder than you ever expected? New episodes every Thursday. Subscribe to get them when they’re hot! #KeepingItRealWithErinAndTerry #AutismDad #Autism #NonverbalAutism #AutismParenting #AutismFamily #NoGloss
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