Show Notes
One of the questions I get constantly is, “Where can I find a Dom?”
So in this episode, I sit down with my Dom to talk honestly about where real Doms come from, how he found the kink community, and what he actually looks for when choosing a submissive.
In this episode, he shares how he found the kink community, what shaped the way he leads, and how our dynamic started long before either of us named it. We talk about emotional steadiness, consistency, red flags, green flags, and the difference between a man performing dominance and someone who can genuinely hold you.
If you’ve ever wondered where to meet a Dom, how to choose one, or what a grounded power exchange feels like from the inside, this conversation gives you a clear, real-world look behind the scenes.
Episode Highlights: 00:00 Discovering FetLife and Online Communities 05:33 Learning and Growing as a Dom 24:11 How We Actualy Me 25:48 Advice for Subs and Doms in the Dating World 33:59 The Importance of Communication and Flexibility 36:16 Handling Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability 40:06 Respecting Boundaries and Insecurities
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