Show Notes
we're back with another advice session from your submissions and we talk about girl code, betrayal, and what happens when you do something that doesn’t sit right in your body. i get into female friendships, dating your friend’s ex, why shame hits harder when it comes from other women, and how easy it is to spiral into thinking you’re a bad person instead of a human who made a mistake. we also get into jealousy, moral alignment, male validation, and why doing the wrong thing once doesn’t define who you are forever. this one is about compassion, accountability, and learning who you are by actually living. love u enjoy
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