Show Notes
This conversation will change how you handle your relationship starting tonight. The late Dr. Sue Johnson basically gave me a cheat code for relationships that not only last but amplify.
She breaks down the real signals to look for in a partner. Why people actually cheat (not what you think) and how to spot it coming a mile away. Plus she offers a simple framework that can turn fights from something that pushes you away to something that brings you closer than ever.
We dig into how to keep the spark alive (even after kids), how to survive the empty-nest phase, and three simple things you can do to strengthen your relationship.
Doesn't matter if you're single, dating, married, or divorced. You need to hear this.
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Approximate Timestamps:
(00:00) Introduction
(07:11) The Life Cycles Of Relationships
(08:13) How Do We Choose A Mate?
(17:42) Emotional Responsiveness
(24:18) Attachment Panic
(32:31) How To Deepen Romantic Relationships
(43:53) Isolation In Parenthood
(59:50) Sexual Problems Unresolved Lead To Poor Intimacy
(1:04:07) Ad Break
(1:09:10) Affairs and Infidelity
(1:36:58) The Stages Of Emotional Connection In A Relationship
(1:39:27) Warning Signs Of Relationship Detachment
(1:44:48) Predictors Of Success In Couples Therapy
(1:51:29) When Relationships Become Transactional
(1:55:09) Raising Kids And Creating A Safe Parental Alliance
(1:58:51) Retirement Phase
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