#9.07: Y: Your Connections: What’s the link between connection and communication?
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My guest on this week’s episode of The Lifestyle First Podcast is John Howard- author of More than Words – the science of deepening love and connection in any relationship.
In this episode we:
· Discuss the secret of connection in order to communicate effectively
· Explore the need for connection to enable safe and secure communication
· Highlight how 80% of communication is non-verbal and 90% of information we gather is subconscious for survival and safety purposes
· Discuss the impact of incongruity between verbal and non-verbal communication
· Explore how to deepen yourself through relationships by imporving relationships
· Highlight the importance of focusing on creating security before conveying ideas and concepts
· Discuss the use of touch and proximity to create safety
· Highlight how the quality of your relationships is a determinant of your longevity and health and wellness
· Explore using acting techniques to change tonality and expression
· Explore practising what good conversations might sound like to create templates in your memory
· Explore use of the word we and inviting others into a growth process rather than a defence process
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1. The one question we discuss is, “what’s the link between connection and communication?”
2. The two references we look at are
(i) Howard. J. Get More Than Words. 2022. S&S Simon Element
https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Words-Connection-Relationship/dp/1982182326\
(ii) Tatkin. S. Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Spark Intimacy. 2012.NewHarbinger
3. The three actions to take are:
· Use touch and proximity in interactions
· Practice good connection instead of just talking about issues
· Remove distractions when communicating
Which of these 3 actionable tips will you implement?
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DISCLAIMER: This content does not constitute or substitute personal one-to-one professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or health care professional with questions about your health.
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