679: Why You Only Feel Free When You're Single (The Father Wound Behind It) with Alyssa Nobriga

"Casper, the ghosting". If you're not aware of the phrase, it's when you're talking to someone, things are going well, maybe you've even been on a date, and then boom, they vanish into thin air. No explanation, no breakup text, no "this isn't going to work out for me." Back in the day you'd probably even do it in person, and now people aren't even writing the text. I'm doing a little solo cast for the spiritual girlies, because dating is an initiation and nothing rocks your world quite like it. I want to talk about why this keeps happening and how we can handle it, especially for those of us who notice every little shift in a voice, a punctuation mark, or a missing emoji. In this episode I explore: 🔮 Why your nervous system goes haywire when a cycle never gets completed 🌙 The childhood roots of being so hyper attuned to everyone else 💔 Why first love is the one we never fully get over ✈️ Why dating can feel like watching one airplane after another crash 💫 What I think happens the moment you ask ChatGPT if he likes you 🌹 The kind of love that should feel so obvious you almost can't handle it Send this to the girl in your life who just got the vanishing act. She needs to hear it from someone who has been there.

Are you aware that a kiss is a language older to us than words? It's playful, it's loving, it's romantic, and it's sexy all at once. It can say so much more than words, and somewhere along the way we stopped speaking it. I really feel we are not kissing enough as a collective, so let's bring kissing back.

I've been on a journey, if you're new here, about understanding love. And if you're listening to this podcast, if you were even attracted to the title of it, you know exactly what I mean when I say dating doesn't feel natural. You're playing with the biggest thing you have, your love, your devotion, and just trying it out on people who might ghost you the next day. So I brought back Christine Hassler, a personal friend and one of the top relationship coaches in the world, someone who was single through her entire 30s before meeting her now husband. In this episode we explore: 🔮 The real difference between settling and simply not getting everything on your list 🌙 Why chasing versus magnetizing energy changes who actually shows up for you 👑 The line between falling for someone's potential and actually seeing their character ✨ What she did the night she decided to fully surrender her dating list 🕊️ Why her nervous system, not her mind, is what told her he was safe 💫 The one thing that mattered more than chemistry, money, or timing in the end Send it to your girlies still in the dating trenches. They need to hear this one.

So many of us are forgetting our worth. We're forgetting how far we've come on this journey, and we start thinking that the magic has to stop, that we have to settle for a life, a love, a career- all these things we don't actually want- because maybe our best days were before us, and now we've gotta get realistic.

Can a relationship even last forever, or is that just a fantasy we need to release? This is the question I've been sitting with, talking about with all my friends, ever since going through my own marriage, betrayal, and rebirth. So I brought back someone who's been through his own version of that journey to help me actually answer it.