466: Why Focusing on Regrets Won't Help You Drink Less
Take a Break from Drinking: Practical Tools to Drink Less & Change Your Relationship with AlcoholShow Notes
You know that feeling the morning after you drank too much? Have you ever thought to yourself, "I just don't want to feel this way again"?
Regret and guilt can feel like powerful motivators to stop drinking, but the truth is, focusing on what you don't want can actually keep you stuck in the same cycle. If you've ever promised to stop drinking after a rough night, only to repeat the same pattern, this episode is for you.
Tune in this week to understand the problem with using regret as motivation to drink less. You'll learn why identity-based motivation is a more effective approach than relying on regret, how to shift from a focus on "what you don't want" to "who you want to become," and how understanding your drink archetypes can provide the clarity and direction needed to make lasting change.
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