Vanessa Van Edwards

How to Show Authentic Appreciation at Work...and make people feel good

Vanessa Van Edwards

Summary

The discussion centers around the concept of appreciation languages in the workplace, drawing from Dr. Gary Chapman's framework originally designed for romantic relationships. The speaker outlines five distinct appreciation languages: quality time, gifts, physical touch, acts of service, and words of affirmation. Each language reflects different ways individuals express and receive appreciation, which can significantly impact workplace dynamics and employee morale.

Quality time emphasizes the importance of meaningful interactions, suggesting that one-on-one check-ins can help colleagues feel valued. The gifts language highlights that even small tokens can convey thoughtfulness, while physical touch, though challenging in professional settings, can be expressed through gestures like handshakes or high fives. Acts of service focuses on completing tasks for others as a way to show appreciation, and words of affirmation encourages verbal recognition of colleagues' contributions. The speaker urges listeners to identify their own appreciation language and that of their coworkers to foster a more supportive work environment.

Show Notes

Do you know how the people in your work life feel appreciated? Do you know how YOU feel appreciated by others?It’s important to show your employees and colleagues you care, but what’s the best way to show employee appreciation?In this video, I review appreciation languages and show you how to find out which language your employees have. I think that by catering to those languages every so often creates a happy work environment, which makes for happy employees that feel accomplished about their work and being on your team.In this video:0:00 I Appreciate You0:25 What's An Appreciation Language?2:12 Appreciation Language #1: Quality Time5:01 Appreciation Language #2: Gifts7:16 Appreciation Language #3: Physical Touch10:14 Appreciation Language #4: Acts of Service12:10 Appreciation Language #5: Words of Affirmation14:47 What’s your appreciation language?If you'd like to learn your own appreciation language, check out Dr. Chapman's official Love Language quiz here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/Captivate your team and succeed with people with my book Captivate! Get it here: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/Read your team's verbal and nonverbal cues and master the secret language of charismatic communication with my new book Cues! Get it here: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/cues/******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and creator of People School(https://www.scienceofpeople.com/people-school/).My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/******PS - Join the conversation on social!☞ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/☞ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards☞ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/#appreciation #lovelanguage #vanessavanedwards #garychapman #5lovelanguages #captivate #captivatebook #cues #cuesbook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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