Show Notes
How to be a better manager usually comes down to something nobody teaches you: closing what you said you'd close.
Not the big broken promise. You'd remember the big one. It's the forty small ones — "let me look into that," "I'll get you an answer," "leave it with me" — that you closed in your head and left open in theirs.
Here's what it costs. Your team keeps a running list of everything you said you'd do. You don't. So they wait two weeks, then six, and then they quietly stop asking twice. The next time somebody has an idea, or a problem, or something genuinely broken, a half-second calculation runs behind their eyes — is this worth bringing to him? — and more and more, the answer is no.
You didn't lose credibility on the thing you forgot. You lost it on everything your team decided not to bring you afterward. And nobody will ever tell you. The feedback is silence.
In this episode I walk through THE OPEN LOOP — three moves any manager or team lead can run this week:
1. COUNT WHAT YOU SAID. Go thirty days back through your sent messages, your one-on-one notes and your calendar, write down every open loop, then ask one person straight: what am I still owing you?
2. CLOSE IT OUT LOUD — DONE, DATED, OR DEAD. You don't have to deliver all of it, you have to resolve all of it, and a clean no delivered to someone's face builds more trust at work than three delivered yeses.
3. STOP OPENING LOOPS YOU CAN'T CLOSE. Separate thinking out loud from committing, commit with a person, an action and a date, and put it where your team can see it instead of where only you can.
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