#468 Power, Pleasure, and the Men Who Want More

In this episode, we sit down with Justin Adams, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore dominance as something far deeper than bedroom technique, power, or performance. A Brooklyn-based practitioner and educator, Justin approaches dominance as a discipline of character rooted in self-authored ethics, ritual, self-awareness, and the responsibility that comes with being trusted by another person. Drawing on Taoism, Stoicism, and Jungian shadow integration, Justin offers a thoughtful alternative to both Manosphere masculinity and the often-sanitized conversations surrounding mainstream kink culture. We get into the psychology of power, the difference between healthy authority and pathological control, and why true dominance begins with mastering yourself. We also unpack nice guy syndrome and how people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and unspoken expectations can undermine confidence, intimacy, and sexual dynamics. Is dominance something every man can benefit from learning, even if he doesn't identify as kinky? And what separates a man who simply likes being in control in the bedroom from someone who understands the responsibility of wielding power? From building trust and practicing healthy dominance to exploring how BDSM can foster deeper communication and stronger relationships, Justin shares practical insights for anyone interested in becoming more intentional in their relationships and sexuality. We also discuss his forthcoming book, Way of Surrender: The Tao of BDSM, which explores a compelling paradox: the Dominant surrenders to the Tao, while the submissive surrenders to the Dominant. Plus, we talk about his work giving submissives a platform to share their own experiences and perspectives, challenging the tendency to speak about them rather than listen to them. In this conversation, we explore: Dominance as a discipline of character rather than a collection of techniques The difference between healthy dominance, control, and manipulation Why dominance isn't necessarily synonymous with kink Nice guy syndrome, people-pleasing, and the dynamics of desire Practical tools for developing confidence and healthy authority How BDSM can deepen trust, communication, and intimacy Why sexual dominance without education or preparation can be problematic The philosophy of surrender, power exchange, and personal responsibility

This episode is with repeat guests Alicia and Erwan Davon and is all about upping your blowjobs skills. #258 was all about using hands and mouths for oral pleasure. Now let’s get more advanced! We discuss: *The common issues/fears people have around giving blowjobs *The common issues penis owners have around receiving *Basics/1.0 level skills people should know about *How Tantra can it take oral sex even deeper/to the advanced level *Advanced oral sex tips for the giver *Advanced oral sex tips for the receiver *Whether actions such as swallowing and the money shot matter More about our guests: Erwan and Alicia Davon are the foremost Tantra teachers in the San Francisco Bay Area and the creators of the Davon Method, their signature approach to love, intimacy, and connection. For over 22 years, this married couple has taught more than 22,000 students through group programs, retreats, and private sessions — guiding singles into lasting relationships and helping couples thrive. Their method blends academic backgrounds in psychology with the principles of Zen Buddhism into a holistic path for deepening connection with yourself and others. As the Bay Area's go-to teachers for all things romantic and sexual, they now reach students worldwide through online learning. Erwan studied psychology and graduated with honors, drawing on both a challenging childhood and an early immersion in therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen monastery, direct a yoga ashram, train in cutting-edge sensual practices, and teach personal development at one of the world's largest personal-growth organizations. In 1995, his passion for teaching led him to found the Davon Method, dedicated to helping people build extraordinary romantic relationships. Alicia holds a Master's degree in Integral Psychology, with a focus on women's romantic and sexual expression. She has led numerous women's groups devoted to female pleasure and fulfillment across career, relationship, and life. She met Erwan 23 years ago and began teaching alongside him a year later. Together, Erwan and Alicia have spent more than two decades refining a curriculum and a set of techniques that create a safe, welcoming space to grow. Whether you want to build chemistry, deepen connection, communicate more openly, or reignite passion, their guidance meets you where you are — and makes the process genuinely fun. Get ready: working with them is a blast. To learn more go to: https://davonmethod.com/ Follow them on IG @davonmethod Find them on Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicia-davon/ To set up a consultation: 415 308 9580 https://davonmethod.com/consult

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