
Perimenopause, Perfectionism, and People-Pleasing: Why Midlife Feels So Overwhelming - w/ Erin Dougherty
Midlife Strategies for Badass WomenShow Notes
What if the biggest problem with midlife isn't that you're falling apart, but that you're still trying to hold every damn thing together? Perimenopause, career changes, aging parents, shifting identities, and the never-ending pressure to have it all figured out. Is it any wonder so many women hit midlife and think, What the hell happened, and how did I get here? In this episode of Midlife Strategies for Badass Women, Sue Willoughby sits down with health and wellness coach Erin Dougherty for an honest, funny, and refreshingly practical conversation about navigating midlife without losing yourself in the process. From perfectionism and people-pleasing to emotional overwhelm, self-worth, and the pressure to reinvent yourself, Sue and Erin explore why so many women feel compelled to keep doing more, achieving more, and fixing everything, even when they're running on empty. Erin shares her personal journey through perimenopause, career reinvention, and recovering from perfectionism, along with practical strategies for creating sustainable change. Together, they dig into the power of self-compassion, listening to your body, questioning old beliefs, and learning to recognize when resistance is fear versus when it's your intuition telling you something isn't right. And yes, there are horses involved. Because sometimes a thousand-pound animal can teach you more about yourself than another five-year plan ever will. In this episode, we explore:
Why midlife can feel like everything is falling apart at once
How perimenopause, life transitions, and changing priorities affect your sense of self
Why perfectionism and people-pleasing leave so many women exhausted
How to stop trying to fix everything and start making meaningful changes
The difference between fear-based resistance and genuine intuition
Why self-compassion, body awareness, and emotional resilience matter
How meditation, journaling, and EFT tapping can support self-reflection
Why you don't need a five-year plan to figure out your next chapter
How to give yourself permission to evolve without having all the answers
The big takeaway: You don't need to overhaul your entire life, become a different person, or figure out the next 30 years. Sometimes the most badass thing you can do is stop, get curious, listen to yourself, and take one small step toward what actually matters. Chapters0:00 Perimenopause, midlife upheaval, and losing the filter5:16 Why women feel responsible for everything8:12 Personalized coaching for overwhelmed women17:12 Moving beyond performative goals and fixed plans26:23 Listening to the body and working with resistance32:48 Coaching tools: meditation, tapping, and journaling43:08 Root causes, functional medicine, and hormone care46:26 How to connect with Erin Doherty Connect with Erin Dougherty: Visit Erin's website to learn about her health and wellness coaching and free clarity call.
Website Link: http://www.erincdougherty.com
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