104. If their name was Brian: family violence in lesbian relationships
The Post-Separation Abuse PodcastShow Notes
There is a phrase I have heard, in various forms, from many of my clients over the years: "If her name was Brian instead of Barb, the recognition and response would have been completely different." That phrase is the whole problem, distilled into one sentence. This solo episode is for two audiences at once. The first is every woman who has experienced family violence or post-separation abuse perpetrated by a female partner - and who has watched as professionals, police, and even community bys...
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