How DOES she do it?!

Ep 86: Leading with courage and compassion, with James O'Keefe

How DOES she do it?!

Show Notes

In today's episode, I sit down with James O'Keefe - award-winning leadership and performance coach, certified breathwork practitioner, and former professional MMA fighter. What makes James's story so compelling is where it begins. He speaks openly and unflinchingly about growing up in circumstances that led him down a very dark path - violence, drug dealing, and a complete absence of healthy male role models. It's this lived experience, hard-won and hard-earned, that gives his message its extraordinary weight, because when James talks about accountability, resilience, and inner freedom, he's not speaking from a textbook. We explore one of his most powerful ideas: that we imprison ourselves with stories we formed as children - stories that were never even truly ours to begin with - and that the path to freedom starts not with fixing what's around us, but by going inward first. His seven-step system (starting, brilliantly, with just learning to breathe properly through your nose) offers an accessible, genuinely practical framework for navigating confrontation, stress, and self-doubt - and as James points out, every single step is completely free. This one stayed with me long after we stopped recording — and I think it will do the same for you. Enjoy the show!

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