Did Your Family Mess You Up? (w/ Usama Siddiquee, Rachel Wolfson, and Felicia Folkes)
Intimacy CoordinatorShow Notes
Joel Kim Booster is joined by comedians Usama Siddiquee (Funny AF with Kevin Hart runner-up, Usama Bin Laughing), Rachel Wolfson (Jackass, Rachel Interrupted), and Felicia Folkes (Funny AF with Kevin Hart top-ten finalist) to unpack how their families shaped — and warped — their approach to sex, love, and dating. They swap the worst relationship advice their parents ever gave them (location-sharing paranoia, "never let your man know where you are," marry-by-23 ultimatums), debate whether waiting to sleep together actually matters, and get into how cultural upbringing colors everything from jealousy to attraction.
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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)
Usama Siddiquee: @usamastandsup · Kevin Hart’s Funny AF (Netflix); Inventing Anna
Rachel Wolfson: @rachelwolfson · Jackass Forever; Jackass: Best and Last (2026)
Felicia Folkes: @felfatale · stand-up comedian, writer & actor; seen on Comedy Central
Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.
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