Show Notes
Very special friend and parental teammate of the pod, Trevor Chow-Fraser (he/him) joins us this week. The conversation includes a great reminder that while we may see room for growth, that does not mean that we aren’t currently doing a good job! This week's listener voicemail covers the decisions that can arise when kids enter into new administrative spaces, like kindergarten, and the tricky navigation between gender presentation and passing, filling out forms, and identity.
Recommendations this week include the tv shows Bluey and She-Ra, Breathe: Journeys to healthy binding by Maia Kobabe and Sarah Peitzmeier, PhD, and the site https://www.outcarehealth.org/outlist/ to help find queer and trans friendly health care providers. For those in Ontario, also check out the Rainbow Health Ontario Service Directory https://www.rainbowhealthontario.ca/lgbt2sq-health/service-provider-directory/
For more Trevor, check out his podcast at http://letsfindoutpodcast.com.
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