
#33 Premium Surrogates for Extra Bucks? The Truth About Two-Tier Surrogacy Systems
Surrogacy Made SimpleShow Notes
Is paying more for a surrogate really worth it?
Choosing the right surrogate isn't an easy job. Like all intended parents, you want the best chance of having a healthy baby.
So when you find an agency offering "premium" surrogates that meet extra requirements, it’s tempting. Even though it costs more, how can you put a price on something like this? You might feel pressured to stretch your budget for that so-called peace of mind.
Is this a big fat lie or extra security?
And then there’s the other side, the surrogates labeled “basic”, meeting different criteria.
The question is, what do these labels really mean?
This episode breaks down the reality behind these marketing tactics and helps you make informed decisions to protect your journey and your finances.
In this episode, you'll discover:
04:41 Finding a trustworthy surrogate can be overwhelming
06:58 Choosing unqualified surrogates risks pregnancy complications
12:02 Surrogacy risks: Lower fees, Facebook groups, dubious agencies
15:56 Who really has final say on a surrogate
19:29 The sneaky ways agencies are creating false exclusivity to charge higher fees
22:24 The real guidelines to qualify a surrogate
25:23 How to use your power as an intended parent
29:23 Find helpful tools for your surrogacy journey
What’s influencing your decision to pick a surrogate?
Because you deserve to know the truth.
Listen now.
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ASRM Surrogacy Recommendations (PDF)
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