Show Notes
Many childhood behaviours labelled as difficult, oppositional or defiant may make far more sense than we realise. This article and podcast episode explore a biological perspective on defiance, screens, difficult behaviour and why modern parenting has become so exhausting. We explore why children adapt when something important is missing from their experience, and how shifting our attention from behaviour to environment can transform how we understand children. Read the article here: https://thevoiceofearlychildhood.com/from-behaviour-to-signal-a-different-way-to-understand-children/
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