Show Notes
You've probably had one. Maybe you even have one right now. And if Glassdoor data is anything to go by, you're far from alone—mentions of "toxic boss" in workplace reviews have surged 6.7x since 2018. 🤯
This week, Amanda Goetz sits down with Mita Mallick—bestselling author, workplace culture expert, and self-described recovering people pleaser—to talk about the bad bosses we've all worked for, the ones we've quietly become, and how to tell the difference.
Mita's new book, The Devil Emails at Midnight, breaks down 13 archetypes of bad bosses (yes, they all have nicknames), and this conversation goes deep on the ones you'll recognize immediately—and the ones that are dangerously easy to miss.
They get into why bad bosses are made, not born; what the midnight email really signals about a leader's psychology; and why toxic positivity might actually be the sneakiest trap for high-achieving women.
Over 70% of workers say they've quit a job because of a bad boss. This episode is for everyone who has—and everyone who's still figuring out whether they should.
Key Takeaways
Bad bosses are made, not born.
The sneakiest toxic boss, The Cheerleader.
Demanding excellence and coaching excellence are not the same thing.
Apologies are the most underutilized tool in leadership.
Trauma from a bad boss follows you to the next job if you don't deal with it.
Context matters. Not every bad boss is a reason to quit.
Self-awareness is the non-negotiable foundation of good leadership.02:30 Intro
04:49 The 3 moments toxic leadership shows up
13:18 Why toxic positivity is the hardest boss to spot
17:25 What The Devil Emails at Midnight title really means
20:24 Why companies keep tolerating bad bosses
25:43 Mita was a micromanager too
29:08 Where to start if you have a toxic boss right now
31:14 How to survive without burning out when leaving isn't an option
33:05 The post-toxic-boss trauma nobody talks about
35:42 What the best bosses do differently
37:20 Rapid-fire questions
GUEST LINKS
IG: https://www.instagram.com/mita_mallick13/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mita-mallick/
Read The Devil Emails at Midnight: https://bookshop.org/a/116169/9781394316489
Read Reimagine Inclusion: https://bookshop.org/a/116169/9781394177097
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