Show Notes
Alison Armstrong is a relationship expert and creator of the “Understanding Men” curriculum. Why do men withdraw instead of open up? Why does “If he wanted to, he would” miss the mark? What makes a man stop caring? And what responsibility do both men and women share in creating partnership? Expect to learn why men calculate capacity and “worth it” before acting, how testosterone and estrogen shape communication styles, why timing matters when asking emotional questions, what “frog farming” means and how it destroys attraction, the difference between physical and emotional attraction in men, why men feel responsible for making women happy (and why that’s a trap), what the “cave behind the cave” reveals about men and mortality, how to move from furious to curious in conflict, and much more.
00:00 “If He Wanted To, He Would” 03:20 Capacity vs Desire: How Men Decide 07:00 Feels Like Love, Looks Like Math 10:45 Why Men Don’t Answer “How Do You Feel?” 15:30 Timing Emotional Conversations 19:40 Coaching, Readiness & Emotional Impact 26:30 Frog Farming Explained 30:10 Why Sexual Attraction Isn’t Enough 34:05 What Makes a Man Stop Caring 37:00 The Danger of Emasculation 40:30 The Cave Behind the Cave 46:40 From Furious to Curious 52:10 Responsibility in Partnership 57:25 You Can’t Make Her Happy 59:00 Where to Find Alison’s Work
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