Show Notes
The pressure to lead well often collides with the longing for a full and joyful life. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores why so many leaders, parents, and helpers feel split between success and aliveness, and why that tension usually traces back to a dysregulated nervous system and our protective parts trying to keep us safe.
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