143 - Wedding Planning Q&A: 8 Real Questions Brides Are Asking in 2025
Wedding Planning Collective PodcastShow Notes
Today on the Wedding Planning Collective Podcast, I’m answering eight real wedding planning questions submitted by listeners — and we’re covering everything from invitations to aisle etiquette to whether the garter toss is officially dead. If you’re feeling unsure about what’s “normal,” what’s outdated, or what’s actually recommended by a wedding planner… this episode is going to clear a lot up. Here are the exact questions I’m answering in this episode: 1. Is it too early to send wedding invitations 4.5 months before the wedding? 2. For a seating chart, should you list each guest individually or group couples together? 3. How do you approach your venue about adding a late-night snack? 4. How do you prevent guests from leaning into the aisle with their phones during the ceremony? 5. Is it normal to try on wedding dresses without buying one that day? 6. My fiancé wants a garter toss, but I’m not into it. What do couples do now? 7. If you send save-the-dates, do you have to send a formal invitation later? 8. When hiring a day-of coordinator, what’s the most important thing to look for?
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