Show Notes
Holding a boundary is not about ‘being the boss.’ Boundaries are often thrown around as one of those behaviour support tools that’s the magic bullet for getting children to do what you want. Womp womp, friend - magic bullets for behaviour don’t exist. The good news? When done well, boundaries can be an excellent tool for behaviour guidance and for showing children where our line is. You’ll hear: 🍎 What a boundary really is - and what happens when we confuse them with limits 🍎 The three most common traps we fall into when setting boundaries 🍎 Why big feelings in response to your boundaries don’t mean your boundary has failed 🍎 A framework for knowing which boundaries to remain steadfast on and which you can drop 🍎 The myth of consistency meaning 100% of the time This episode’s for those of you feeling like your boundaries could do with a little spring clean (or maybe even a complete makeover). PS: Very (very) mild coarse language features in this episode.
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