185: Mindset, Limiting Beliefs, and Motivation for Men 40+ (with Coach Allan Misner, host of 40+ Fitness Podcast)

Today's guest, Coach Allan Misner and host of the 40+ Fitness Podcast, almost drove himself to the ER when he was 39 after playing a half of a round of beach volleyball.

His story may even resemble yours:

He prioritized his career over his fitness, over his health, over his family, and over his relationships for years without even noticing.

That half round of volleyball was his wake-up call… but he was still battling a shoddy mindset which threw a wrench in his tires every time he tried to better himself. And so, he rode the fitness rollercoaster for another 8 years until his daughter said something to him that made him take his health and fitness seriously.

And then, at age 47, he did two things you weren't "supposed" to be able to do: He lost 66 pounds of fat and gained 11 pounds of muscle at the same time. He also decided to start the 40+ Fitness Podcast because nothing of the sort existed at the time. (This was back in 2012-2013.)

Anyway, after getting his fitness in order, he decided to help other people over the age of 40 take back control of their health, fitness, and lifestyle.

And you know what?

He realized there were three key ingredients that determine your success regardless of your age or current fitness level: Your mindset, your limiting beliefs, and your motivation.

And so, today's show takes a 40,000 foot view and gives you the strategy for getting fit after 40. We don't talk about any tactics because, as you'll hear, tactics can only work when they're used in support of a successful strategy.

Here's what Allan and I discuss:

Why you must change your approach to fitness after 40 (and how to actually do it)

How fixing your mindset and limiting beliefs will naturally motivate you more than beating yourself up ever could

The most effective way to set fitness boundaries with your family and get them to join you in your mission

And more!

Listen now.

Other highlights include:

How one game of beach volleyball made Allan think he needed to head straight to the ER at only 39 (and how he transformed his fitness in his late 40s) (8:21)

Why one conversation Allan had with his daughter finally forced him to get his fitness in order after riding the "yo-yo rollercoaster" for 8 straight years (9:08)

How one bad workout can "taint" your entire perception of exercise when you're over 40 (even a bodyweight only workout like Allan explains at) (12:04)

Here's exactly what Allen did to lose 66 pounds of fat and tack on 11 pounds of muscle - at the same time! - at age 47 (and why he thinks Man Flow Yoga is better than his strategy was) (14:47)

How to break through the barrier of self-hatred and shame (which can be motivating when you begin, but becomes lethal over time) and find a more positive source of motivation (21:41)

Why the choices you make today will determine how involved you are in your kids' or grandkids' lives 30 years from now (29:12)

A straightforward way to reframe your anxieties and actually enlist the people in your life to help you conquer them (33:10)

How to set boundaries with your fitness and nutrition in a way that lets your family join the fight with you (39:04)

The "Head Straight" secret to simplifying your fitness and aligning every aspect of your life (52:22)

How to create an identity around your new fitness regimen (and why this allows you to stay consistent without even thinking about it) (59:08)

Guest Bio:

Allan Misner is a health and fitness coach who helps people in their 40s, 50s, and 60s get strong, healthy, and capable for the life they actually want to live. He is the host of the 40+ Fitness Podcast, one of the largest and longest-running health and fitness shows for people over 40, and the author of the award-winning book The Wellness Roadmap: A Straightforward Guide to Health and Fitness After 40. He and his wife live on a Caribbean island off the coast of Panama, where they run Lula's Bed and Breakfast.

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