Clear Eyed Optimism And New Songs You’ll Fall In Love With, w/Guest Bobby Hankinson (Ep. 39)
Play This At My FuneralShow Notes
💐 Episode Summary When you’re perpetually in love with love, it’s hard not to be a clear-eyed optimist. The best kind. Welcome to the first guest episode of Season 4 with Bobby Hankinson, writer, performer, and full-time homosexual. He’s also a comedian, editor, and brilliant musicophile. In this episode you’ll discover bops from Le Tigre, Orville Peck, CHVRCHES, Stars, Judy Garland, and of course, Dolly Parton. Come for the song reveals and stay for the tender humor, and you’ll walk away from this episode feeling hopeful and happy. 💿 Songs Mentioned “Little Shadow” by Yeah Yeah Yeahs
“Men in Love” by Gossip
“Deceptacon” by Le Tigre
“Daylight” by Matt and Kim
“Sax Rohmer #1” by The Mountain Goats
“This Year” by The Mountain Goats
“Fade Into You” by Mallrat
“Cuff It” by Beyonce
“Break My Soul” by Beyonce
“Schoolin’ Life” by Beyonce
“Clearest Blue” by CHVRCHES
“In The City” by Charli xcx and Sam Smith
“Hold On When You Get Love and Let Go When You Give It” by Stars
“I Will Always Love You” by Dolly Parton
“Happy Trails” by Orville Peck
“Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas” by Judy Garland
You can listen to Bobby’s playlist on Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2J9wEJKsekreG0QFSf3BrZ?si=AxzAEsTVSJuwdutAUTcutg&pi=SqJv00cWQjK3R 🎙 About the Guest Bobby Hankinson is a writer, performer and full-time homosexual. Since 2015, Bobby has hosted KWEENDOM, a monthly all-LGBTQ+ Brooklyn comedy show TimeOUT NY called "consistently dope" and Thrillist described as “extremely gay.” In 2021, he curated and edited, Welcome to Kweendom, a book of essays from LGBTQ+ writers, published by Wheatfield Press with an introduction by actor Alan Cumming. Bobby has performed all over the country at venues including Broadway Comedy Club, The Bell House, The New York Public Library, Punchline Philly, Black Cat DC, Hartford Funny Bone, Laugh Boston and more. His writing has appeared in The Boston Globe, Houston Chronicle, VICE, Gothamist, amNewYork and on leading LGBTQ+ news sources, Towleroad.com and Gay City News. 🙏🏽 Thank You to Our Supporters TremFit — Kara Tremel’s boutique online training experience helping every body feel strong, confident, and cared for.Second Home First — The hit podcast rethinking homeownership and wealth-building. What if your 401(k) came with a fire pit and a lake view? 🌹 About Play This At My FuneralPlay This At My Funeral is a deeply fun, slightly macabre, always heartwarming podcast about the songs that shape our lives — including the ones we’d play at our funerals. Each episode, Dinah invites a guest to curate their hypothetical send-off playlist and share the stories behind the music. Think Desert Island Discs meets Films To Be Buried With — with more vibes and fewer survival scenarios. Created and hosted by Dinah Susan Alobeid. Edited and co-produced by Jesse Mendelson. 💜 Stay ConnectedSubscribe wherever you listen to podcasts, leave a 5-star review, and share with someone building their own “funeral playlist.”
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