Hello Hormones with Dr. Carrie Jones

60: Dr. Melissa Sonners: Why Women In Perimenopause Need To "Rebrand Self-Care"

Hello Hormones with Dr. Carrie Jones

Show Notes

Women in midlife are told their burnout is a willpower problem. That if they just set better boundaries, did the morning routine, booked the massage, and stopped saying yes to everything, they would feel better.

But what almost no one is talking about is that your nervous system is the master control of every hormone in your body, and by the time women hit perimenopause, that system has been stuck in "pedal-to-the-metal mode" for years. In the latest episode of Hello Hormones, I sit down with Dr. Melissa Sonners, a mind-and-body alignment expert, chiropractor, and author of the brand new book The Connection Code. After her own brutal battle with neurological Lyme, meningitis, and encephalitis, Melissa rebuilt her entire approach to health and has spent the last decade studying the neuroscience of how women actually come home to themselves.

Her work breaks down the brainwaves, the inner voices, and the micro-moments that quietly rewire your nervous system, no hour-long routine required. When self-care starts to become exhausting, it's time to check-in and see if your nervous system is fighting all these years to be heard. What's Discussed: (01:18) Why self-care needs a rebrand, and what most women are getting wrong about it. (08:09) Why your anxiety and burnout are not personality flaws, they are physiological states. (13:05) Brainwaves explained: the five gears your nervous system runs on every day. (14:58) Why theta, the brainwave of intuition, gets loudest in perimenopause. (16:55) The ego voice that keeps women stuck and how to finally talk back to her. (22:35) The two inner voices every woman has & the one question that tells you which is talking. (29:31) Why your body raises symptoms when you stop listening to its whispers. (37:51) The 20-minute magical morning routine that rewires the nervous system. Thank you to our sponsors!

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