Show Notes
In this episode of the Unstressed Exec, Dr. George Vergolias, forensic psychologist and executive coach, explores the concept of the 'productive pause' — the idea of slowing down to speed up and why it's critical for leaders.
Dr. Vergolias delves into the myth of constant motion and its pitfalls, the neuroscience behind pausing, and introduces the Pause-Regulate-Reflect model from his workbook, 'The Conflict Whisperer.' With practical examples, micro pause techniques, and strategic value of stillness, this episode is packed with insights on transforming reactivity into reflection and enhancing both personal and professional life.
The episode also emphasizes the importance of emotional control, reflection before action, and cultivating a habit of stillness for improved decision-making and conflict resolution.
00:00 Introduction to The Unstressed Exec 00:36 Welcome Back and Workbook Introduction 01:36 The Productive Pause: Slowing Down to Speed Up 04:00 The Neuroscience Behind the Pause 05:10 Pause, Regulate, Reflect Model 12:05 Practical Tips for Daily Life 14:58 The Strategic Value of Stillness 16:57 Conclusion and Call to Action
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