Excuse My Grandma

How Independent Should You Be in a Relationship?

Excuse My Grandma

Show Notes

Kim and Grandma Gail are talking about independence in relationships, from whether all your free time should automatically go to your partner to the importance of having your own friends, interests, and routines. They debate alone time, separate plans, shared calendars, and what actually makes a relationship feel secure.

Plus, Grandma gives her take on a recent rom-com, the two catch up on what they’ve been watching, and they share what’s coming up next, including their live podcast at 92NY on October 21. Tickets here: https://www.92ny.org/event/excuse-my-grandma

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