#337: Real Advice to Get a Toddler Talking and Melting Down Less From a Behavior Analyst
Turn Autism AroundShow Notes
Dr. Mary Barbera sits down with Elissa in this rebroadcast to show exactly how to help a late-talking toddler using a clear 4-step plan. After identifying that Lexi understood more than she could say, Elissa used structured table time, fun materials, and the "1 word × 3" strategy to build imitation, requesting, and labeling. By assessing skills, creating predictable learning routines, and tracking language, Lexi went from babbling to consistent word approximations in just weeks, which is progress any parent can start working toward at home.
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Michelle C. shares her daughter Elena's autism success story, from severe language delays and tantrums at age two to thriving in a general education third-grade classroom. After COVID disrupted therapy services, Michelle used the Turn Autism Around® approach to assess Elena's skills, build communication, make learning enjoyable, and track progress. Elena went from using only a few meaningful words to hundreds, while Michelle gained the confidence and tools to support her development. Today, Michelle also helps other families as a Team Barbera coach.
Mary Barbera welcomes back Michelle, a parent and autism coach, to share her daughter Elena's remarkable journey. Michelle discusses recognizing early signs of regression, receiving an autism diagnosis, and navigating therapy shutdowns during COVID-19. She shares how implementing at-home teaching strategies helped Elena progress from two words to 180 words and phrases in just 33 days. Now eight years old and thriving in third grade, Elena continues to make progress. Michelle reflects on the challenges her family overcame and the importance of empowering parents to actively participate in their children's development.
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When a child has words but speaks too quietly to hear, low volume may be connected to confidence, fluency, and how difficult the word feels. In this coaching call excerpt, Dr. Mary Barbera explains how to increase talking and voice volume by giving the answer, modeling words clearly, slowing down practice, using 3D objects, matching, microphones, mirrors, songs, outdoor play, and weekly word lists. The goal is to shape louder, clearer communication without constant correction or pressure.