
Show Notes
E32 - You Don't Need More Writing Advice. You Need More Writing Action.
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Episode Summary: In this episode, we dive into a common trap many writers fall into: the advice blackhole. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of self-help resources available today. But at some point, we need to shift our focus from consuming advice to taking actionable steps.
Key Points Discussed:
The Self-Help Overload
How the abundance of books, articles, videos, and courses can lead to information paralysis.
The real purpose of these resources: to motivate and guide you into taking action.
Personal Experience
How consuming too much advice led to inaction in the early stages of writing.
The realization that practical experience and writing were crucial to learning and growth.
Learning Through Doing
The benefits of starting your writing journey without waiting for the perfect moment or complete knowledge.
Discovering personal writing habits and processes through actual writing practice.
The Balance Between Learning and Doing
Why it’s essential to balance the time spent on gathering advice with taking concrete steps towards your writing goals.
The ideal ratio of action versus advice consumption for progress and productivity.
Creating a Plan
Encouragement to set a plan and schedule for writing and action.
The promise of finding your writer self and making writing feel effortless with consistent effort.
Takeaways:
Action Over Advice: Consume advice to get started, but focus more on applying what you’ve learned through consistent action.
Practical Experience: Begin writing and experimenting to discover what works best for you personally.
Set Realistic Goals: Create a plan and stick with it to make significant progress on your writing journey.
As the year wraps up, reflect on how much time you’ve spent taking action versus gathering advice. Promise yourself to prioritize action in the coming year to truly find and develop your writer self.
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Welcome to Becoming A Writer, a space where we write freely, write fearlessly, and write forever.
It’s not just about publishing a book—it's about becoming the writer your stories deserve. Your dream of holding your book in your hands is possible, but it starts with embracing the journey of writing itself. Join me as we dive into tips, encouragement, and inspiration to help you write with joy and passion, making writing a lifelong adventure.
About Me -
I’m Rubina Gauri Gomes, a multi-genre writer exploring mystery, suspense, and the creative life.
I share essays on writing and living creatively at rubinagomes.substack.com and I encourage writers to pursue their passion through my podcast, Becoming A Writer.
I have authored Soul Writer vs. Social Writer, a guide to discovering and embracing both the introspective Soul Writer and the engaging Social Writer within you, helping you balance these aspects for a more fulfilling writing journey.
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