What Your Therapist Thinks

Am I Hypervigilant? Signs Of Hypervigilance & How To Get Better

What Your Therapist Thinks

Show Notes

Therapist Halle Thomas joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the exhausting reality of hypervigilance, a.k.a the survival mechanism rooted in trauma that has no "off switch." Through conversation and Reddit stories, they expose how hypervigilance manifests and leads to self-fulfilling prophecies in relationships. You’ll also hear validating, practical strategies for healing and why making mistakes is a crucial part of recovery. Some takeaways: Healthy vigilance vs hypervigilance originating from trauma Hypervigilance as social anxiety or shutting down curiosity Why your nervous system is stuck in "always-on" mode Strategies for healing, such as "dosing safety"

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