Stop Being Fabulously Broke: David and John Auten-Schneider on Gay Men, Money, and Retirement
40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.Show Notes
Gay men are great at living fabulously. Retiring fabulously is a different story. David and John Auten-Schneider went from $51,000 in credit card debt to financial independence and now spend their time helping other gay men figure out why their bank account does not match the life they want. They join Rick for episode 400 to talk about the scarcity mindsets, status spending, and financial blind spots that keep LGBTQ men working longer than they have to. If you are in your 50s or 60s and have not saved enough, this episode is not a lecture. It is a plan.
Key Takeaways: How David and John went from $51,000 in debt to financial independence and what that actually required Why gay men face unique financial pressures that straight financial advice does not account for The scarcity mindset that keeps LGBTQ men from building real wealth even when they earn well How to determine your retirement runway and when you can realistically stop working Why paying off debt and building assets require the same discipline applied in a different direction The Retirement Readiness Review and what it can tell you about where you actually stand
About John & David
David and John, are husbands living their fabulous life. They help other gay men like you who also want to live an amazing life without sacrificing your financial security.
Their Queer Money™ podcast, provides tools and resources to help you live fabulously, not fabulously broke.
The are also the creators of the Queer Money Retire Abroad Planner & Calculator Connect With John & David
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