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Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: Why You Stay Up When You're Exhausted

The Dr. Leaf Show

Show Notes

Revenge bedtime procrastination is why you're still scrolling at midnight, eyes burning, and telling yourself "just ten more minutes." Here's what's driving your desire to stay up late scrolling.

When the day belongs to everyone else, the hour after the house goes dark can feel like the only time that's yours. In this episode, my daughter Dominique and I talk about where the term “revenge bedtime procrastination” came from, what the research says, and why staying up late is a reasonable protest using the wrong tool. Then I walk you through a Neurocycle prescription to get your time back without taking it from your sleep.

🔬 What you'll learn:

Why you stay up late on your phone even when you're exhausted

The difference between deliberate, mindless and strategic procrastination

How to plan your joy first thing in the morning so the night stops feeling like your only chance

How thinker moments give your brain a break during a busy day

What "attention infidelity" is, and how phones in bed affect your relationship

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📚 Research mentioned: Kroese et al., bedtime procrastination study (Frontiers in Psychology, 2014) Jessica Gross, "Attention Infidelity" (The New York Times, Sept 30, 2026) Institute for Family Studies survey of married Americans and phone use

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