146. ADHD Dopamine Seeking Behavior - How I spotted and addressed this pattern

This episode is for you if your ADHDer is prone to conflict. If your child appears to seek out a sibling, escalates with you quickly after hearing an answer they don’t like, has to do a non-preferred task that is SO BORING!! I break down a few bits of science that is really helpful to understand WHY their brain is doing what it’s doing. And once we know this, what can WE do as the parent to stop feeding the conflict and start building louder more positive options in the desired behavior pattern we want to see. STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE! If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you’ll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

In this episode I break down a very intense moment between my ADHD child, his grandparents, and us (his parents) when his idea didn’t go exactly as he wanted. I share how the moment unfolded, what was going on for him and me during the argument, and how I supported us both through the fire. This episode is truly about frustration tolerance. How do we build it, how can we teach it, and that really pivotal moment where it feels like nothing is working. What do we do… Make sure you check the show notes for the ADHD Masterclass times and sign up! I know better and I still lose it on my ADHD kid You’re not being a bad parent, your nervous system hits a tipping point and it launches into protection mode. STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE! If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you’ll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

This was a HUGE ah ha moment for me and my ADHD son this summer. We’ve been in this pattern for as long as he’s been able to talk. I ask him to do something, he tells me what he’s doing instead. This has led to us BOTH being very reactive and triggered and it’s been one pattern I haven’t been able to crack. UNTIL NOW! In this episode I break down the exact moment we figured it out, how things have changed since, and exactly how we are practicing it so we can lower the defensive walls and start communicating more respectfully! STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE! If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you’ll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

This episode I share how a bowling trip went from pure chaos to a moderately enjoyable evening. If you have a child who hates losing, will do everything in their power to change the outcome of a game, this episode is for you. STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE! If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you’ll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

Get ready for an amazing conversation with Dr. Anne Welsh, a psychologist, executive coach, working mother, and the author of the upcoming book, Ambitious Mother: From Surviving to Thriving in Your Career and at Home (Bloomsbury, 8/6/26). As a mother who has navigated the demands of career ambition alongside parenting, she understands the invisible pressure many women feel to succeed at work while being fully present at home, often at the cost of their own well-being. Through Ambitious Mother, Dr. Welsh challenges the myth that mothers must choose between success and sanity. She offers a compassionate, research-backed roadmap to help women redefine ambition in ways that support both their families and themselves. In this episode we talk about the mental load that leaves many high achieving moms exhausted and what to do about it. We talk about perfectionism as well as how to model healthy ambition to our kiddos. STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE! If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you’ll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call