How on Earth can I feel Hope?

The discussion centers on the concept of hope, particularly in the context of uncertainty and difficulty. Dr. Kumari Valentine, a clinical psychologist, emphasizes that hope should not be confused with certainty or blind optimism. Instead, hope is portrayed as an active process that involves setting meaningful goals, envisioning pathways to achieve them, and believing in one's ability to take steps toward those goals, even amidst uncertainty.

Valentine highlights the importance of acknowledging that hope can coexist with fear and uncertainty. She references research by Charles Snyder, which outlines hope as having three key components: a meaningful goal, the ability to imagine pathways to that goal, and a sense of agency. The conversation also touches on the relational aspect of hope, suggesting that it can be fostered through connections with others, such as therapists who can help clients envision possibilities they may not see themselves.

The podcast further explores the idea that hope can take different forms, especially for individuals facing serious challenges like illness or trauma. Valentine encourages listeners to recognize that it is okay not to feel hopeful at times and that small moments of connection or kindness can serve as seeds of hope. Ultimately, she advocates for a compassionate approach to hope, one that acknowledges the difficulties without insisting on a positive outcome.

How on Earth Can I Feel Hope?

What happens when you can’t see a way forward and the things that are happening in the world feel so heavy? When you’ve tried everything you can think of, the barriers are real, and being told to ”stay positive” only makes things worse?

In this episode of Just a Minute with Dr Kumari, NZ Clinical Psychologist Dr Kumari Valentine explores the psychology of hope, drawing on research by Charles Snyder and Richard Lazarus.

Discover why hope isn’t the same as optimism, how hope and fear can coexist, and why we don’t always need a clear pathway forward to remain open to possibility.

We also explore evidence-informed ways to nurture hope through meaningful goals, small actions, connection and support — without denying difficult realities or placing pressure on ourselves to feel hopeful.

Because sometimes hope isn’t about believing everything will turn out well. Sometimes it’s about recognising that we don’t yet know what might be possible.

You don’t have to feel hopeful to deserve compassion.