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About the guest: Barry Du Bois is a mental health advocate, keynote speaker, and TV presenter best known for his work on The Living Room. He is a Board member of R U OK? Day and is often described as a modern-day elder, sharing lived experience, hard-won perspective, and practical tools to help people navigate adversity with strength and humanity. Barry is the creator of 5 Days to a Calmer, Stronger You, a gentle, practical course designed to help people reset their nervous system and build sustainable resilience without pressure or overwhelm. DISCOUNT OFFER FOR PODCAST LISTENERS - Barry is offering the course at a discounted rate of $27 for the first 100 listeners of this podcast by using the code BAZCHRISPOD at https://barrydubois.com/5days When Baz Du Bois was told he had three months to live, he refused to accept it. But this isn’t just a cancer story. It’s about resilience. In this episode, Baz opens up about being given a terminal diagnosis, battling multiple myeloma, nearly taking his own life, and the phone call that pulled him back from the edge. Baz believes comfort is killing resilience. We avoid hard conversations. We shield our kids from struggle. We chase ease and ultimately lose strength. In this episode we discuss: What staring at death really teaches you The difference between confidence and true resilience Why saying “I’m with you” can save a life How avoiding pain makes you weaker Raising strong kids in a comfortable world Leaning into hard things instead of running from them This is a conversation about mortality, mental health, fatherhood, and the cost of an easy life. About the guest:Barry Du Bois is a mental health advocate, keynote speaker, and TV presenter best known for his work on The Living Room. He is a Board member of R U OK? Day and is often described as a modern-day elder, sharing lived experience, hard-won perspective, and practical tools to help people navigate adversity with strength and humanity. Barry is the creator of 5 Days to a Calmer, Stronger You, a gentle, practical course designed to help people reset their nervous system and build sustainable resilience without pressure or overwhelm. DISCOUNT OFFER FOR PODCAST LISTENERS - Barry is offering the course at a discounted rate of $27 for the first 100 listeners of this podcast by using the code BAZCHRISPOD at https://barrydubois.com/5days Follow us on Instagram: @defining_moments_pod SPONSORS: FREE VIRTUAL ASSUSTANT - Use referral code MOMENTS at www.remotee.com.au/contact to trial a VIRTUAL ASSISTANT with REMOTEE for your business for TWO WEEKS ABSOLUTELY FREE! It's a great way to grow and scale your business today. 10% OFF CHIEF NUTRITION - Use the following link https://www.wearechief.com/CHIEF094681
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