Show Notes
Is a 'spark' all that it takes to be compatible in the long-term? What about sharing the same interests, personality or sense of humour? Or is it something more deep and intangible? In today’s episode, we explore what ACTUALLY makes two people right for each other, and why the things that draw us together aren’t always the things that keep us together. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: Chemistry versus long-term compatibility
Why shared values matter more than shared hobbies
The importance of feeling understood, appreciated and responded to (i.e the Gottman's theory of responsiveness)
How the belief in soulmates can shape your relationship
The Four Horsemen that erode connection
What an argument can reveal about your future together
Whether you’re dating someone new or reflecting on a long-term relationship, this episode explores what it means to build a love that lasts, through change, conflict and the thousands of little choices we make along the way. Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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